- Wed Nov 05, 2014 5:35 pm
#176628
If I may be blunt.
STOP putting yourself down this way. Talking like that (with negative absolutes) you are seeding more thoughts in yourself that will become self-fulfilling prophesies. You fail at something because you can't see it any other way. Thinking negative makes you act negative, which in turn makes you feel negative. And that gives all the reasons to think negative again. It truly is a vicious circle. Please, take some time and read through your posts in this thread again, to reflect on it.
Honestly, been there, done that, ... still doing it, but less. (Yes, I'm being a hypocrite now. It seems work for me as a self-healing method. Inducing an honest look at myself) No matter where you work, or precisely what you do for an occupation, this is unhealthy. It kills creativity! Surely you have good qualities also. Even if they are hard to come up with right now. They might be hidden under a thick dark blanket because you seem to have made this thinking into a long standing habit. So it will take some time, energy and effort (tears even) to become aware of those. Maybe it also needs professional counselling to get there. A job counsellor, psychologist or maybe even psychiatrist. At least talk about this with your doctor. I sure did need them about 12 years ago. It took a while, but I'm starting to see the benefits now of why my brain is wired as it is, right next to the drawbacks I have with it. Once you start to appreciate the good and the bad about yourself the thinking machine kicks in again and creativity will come back again. No doubt about it.
STOP putting yourself down this way. Talking like that (with negative absolutes) you are seeding more thoughts in yourself that will become self-fulfilling prophesies. You fail at something because you can't see it any other way. Thinking negative makes you act negative, which in turn makes you feel negative. And that gives all the reasons to think negative again. It truly is a vicious circle. Please, take some time and read through your posts in this thread again, to reflect on it.
Honestly, been there, done that, ... still doing it, but less. (Yes, I'm being a hypocrite now. It seems work for me as a self-healing method. Inducing an honest look at myself) No matter where you work, or precisely what you do for an occupation, this is unhealthy. It kills creativity! Surely you have good qualities also. Even if they are hard to come up with right now. They might be hidden under a thick dark blanket because you seem to have made this thinking into a long standing habit. So it will take some time, energy and effort (tears even) to become aware of those. Maybe it also needs professional counselling to get there. A job counsellor, psychologist or maybe even psychiatrist. At least talk about this with your doctor. I sure did need them about 12 years ago. It took a while, but I'm starting to see the benefits now of why my brain is wired as it is, right next to the drawbacks I have with it. Once you start to appreciate the good and the bad about yourself the thinking machine kicks in again and creativity will come back again. No doubt about it.
