There's currently three ways I know to get this done.
One, the Wiport that you found in a different thread. $125 a pop for that.
Two, the EDTP Airdrop series. It' still somewhat in the early stages of development, but the test hardware appears promising. They're still developing the system, however. About $100 for the demo card, add a compatible compactflash 802.11b card. This is not just the hardware, but it gives you access to the software source. I haven't looked at it in the last half a year, though, despite being on the mailing list (all software was on a password protected FTP at that time, including people's code they were passing about on the list).
Three, a "gaming adapter". This is probably the bulkiest method. You can get them for $60-$80. Change the cord to something regulated from a battery (they're probably 5-12V). It'll mostly automatically bridge to a wifi network for you, you just need to use a 10baseT ethernet connection, which there are several options available there (Microchip's 28 pin part with a PIC - free TCP/IP stack available, the Xport series from Lantronics that provides a simple serial connection and has a few programmable IO too). This opton moves the connection and programming away from running a Wifi interface to an ethernet interface, which has more examples and hardware available online. Major issue is that it's by far the bulkiest and heaviest.
In any case, you're looking at $100-$150 to get a wireless connection at all.
A USB dongle would require a full USB stack to be built and a USB master chip. That would generally require something running Linux or Windows on your RC car. Can it carry a laptop?
An actual option may be a power system, a Mini-ITX motherboard, and a 12V power system. You could then boot off a compactflash card or small hard drive and with the right drivers load USB drivers for your dongle. You could also use a PIC or something else with a serial (or even slave USB) interface to provide a way to toggle IO. Mind you, this is the most costly option, and will probably be as heavy and large as the Wifi gaming bridge option. It'd also put a big brain onboard your car.
Seriously, you have a large, complex project ahead of you.